WHAT IS SEXY?

So what is sexy. Being sexy should literally mean you are attractive enough for the people of opposite sex(in most of the cases) to want of or at least think of having sex with you. However, things are ridiculous now-a-days with TV, music videos and all glamour. The thing sexy is completely a different thing. Today, being sexy is inextricably linked with what media portrays as "sexy".

When I went to watch a Hindi movie, this Laxmi Puja, one of the actresses kept explicitly stating herself as "sexy". To make that statement look relevant, the film started from a scene where she wore a bikini and dived into sparkling blue water. That is what most of us think sexy is. It occurred to me that irrespective of the actress, anyone(most of Bollywood actresses) wearing the same attire and carrying the same scene would have been tagged "sexy". So, I couldn't stop but think, were the wardrobe and the setup sexier than the heroine herself?

In some other cases, actors who are benevolent enough to strip off are considered sexy. That too surprises me. Neither of us are going to have actual sex with those highly rated, rarely reachable so called shining,hot celebrities. So, when they strip off, they must have lost their sexiness. I mean, if you are not going to have a sexual intercourse with a person, the next closest thing to be sexily close to him/her is watch them naked. So, to be "sexy" they must hide more than reveal, you know to keep that "sexy" curiosity going. Surprisingly, the media acts arcane and rates actors who reveal more as sexy. So, like a creed to be followed, actors continuously crave for movies that demands more of intimate scenes until either the viewers or their age get fed up of such nuisance. The rise and fall of such curiosity driven artificial "being sexy" culture is portrayed in the Vidya Balan's starer "Dirty Picture."

even the cartoons are to be blamed?

The media has presented another horrible prospect through its 24 hour "being sexy" bullshit. A "hero" in a movie  always has a muscular setup, and the heroine has a zero sized figure. Then, they are said to complement each other enough to make the sexy chemistry of the "true love saga" work, while all other shapes and sizes are ridiculously thrown away. Imagine, what would happen if all of the world were had men with six pack abs, and women with fair skin and a skinny figure? Maybe a overweight human would be told as sexy! Through continuous streaming of such propagandist agenda, people of personality other than that approved by the media, begin to impugn whether they are capable of nurturing a proper relationship. An over sized person, is always a subject of joke, and put as one who has to seek advise to date a girl/boy. And none protest to it.

Well, I realized these effects that media put into, when i recalled what sort of girls i got attracted to. In my early teens, i would have not picked a particular shape and size, while for now I certainly prefer the media fed "tall and slim" ones. Maybe, I was to grow this way or those actresses in movies made me think so: that may remain a mystery forever. But, it is certain that the media, is feeding wrong sense of being sexy into us. That is too detrimental as we shall spend more of our time, intellect and resources trying to be sexy in par with the actresses or the actors, who in fact have professionals to help their cause.

To sum it up, if you are a nurse, you are going to be sexy to a doctor, if you take care of your patient reliable and sincerely not necessarily by wearing what Jolie wore to the Oscars.

Love The Difference!

When it comes to falling in love, it is sometimes a blind choice, as one University research reports its a decision that a brain makes in 1/5th of a second. Wow! Our brain is brilliant, however it doesnot always reciprocate with what we actually feel in real.Although the feeling may be ephemeral most of the time and the fling may pass by, however some lucky moment it is more of a mutual event that drives us together.

Apart from some great placing of heavenly stars, we don't find "love in a hopeless place" as Rihanna says. Rather,we take some time, we try to gather similarity and then we decide to jump in.
Moreover, I hear folks falling in love because both of them loved to travel, or both of them are doctors... or even maybe down to ridicules such as flavour of the ice cream they chose uninamously in their first date.

I used to believe in the same. I thought the similar we are the better off we are. I hope most of you believe in it as well.

Even a dog can love a cat! copyright@natgeo

Wait!

Now,I don't think so! I think falling in love with a similar type of human is selfishness and an insurance to failure in a relationship. You love yourself the most, so at last you are prepared to love somebody like you because you know you can withstand somebody like you.

If you are a fairly tip top outgoing guy you will curl your instinct to like a girl like yourself because you know you shall be ashamed of going single into a discotheque even though you intoduced your girlfriend to meet with your friends in a family party yesterday night! If you are a soccer fan you will be delighted to have a fan of the same brass beacause none is going to ask you for a romantic evening walk, at a prime time footy match in ESPN.

But, that is not  you two pushing towards each other rather a black force of something that both of you are interested in binding you together. What if your mate suddenly switched to being a vegeterian, or decided she would quit reading stories of yours or changed his genre of movies or lost his adore to skype? You still need to work it out! Well, when people break up, the easy reason is "because s/he changed!". It is rather the interest that has changed. And relationship that has fostered in foundation of similarities tends to rattle once a quake of change in priorities strike.

So, once you love a girl who loves comics rather than opeds of the paper, you shall be in tricky water for some while. But, if you actually love each other,,,like that 1/5th of a second, you shall interchange your stuffs be pro in both of the segments and flourish together. Love shall take you to unknown territories. You will begin to laugh at moves of Johny lever, even though you only used to like Holloywood's Jim Kerry.Power of love is undeniable, use it to rather diversify your and your partner's scope rather than being concentrated on common issues.

Life is short we need to know more. So, love the difference!!

HOW NON COMMITED RELATIONSHIP EXHAUSTS VALUABLE RESOURCES!!

Well last time when i took a bus from all famous Ratnapark to my university....i had nothin but the view ...that could be seen through my window.I remember my friends rating ,,girls..while having nothing else to do.But let it be known,I am bit more respectful..to those ladies...so  to get a good passtime I decided to count the no of couples.

It was an exotic summer evening(meaning some gentle breeze blew enough to keep it cool).and it was rather soon that i lost the count of my dear couples.

So the trend is increasing to be indulged in a relationship(that certainly.is ..less likely to be converted in to marriage or any sort of creative coperation at least)...among the urban campus goers of Kathmandu...Same is in my university...or let say..the tendency is always there among the teens.

One of brother too haves a such...KIddyfiddy(grade x) relation.Last week when he was invited to a football tourney by his friends.He skipped it and rather went to Gopi Krishna(a cinema Hall) to...watch movie with his young unaware and equally mis adventurous....girlfriend.I shall put all my money,,,if somebody comes to bet with me...whether they shall remain together till they go to a college.So what i am trying to prove here is my uniquely talented brother is not exposing himself to a game of cricket or spending the resources he used to buy the tickets...to buy a small handscope for himself to carry out a mini research.

Worse is the phenomenon among college goers.The tendency to show off and to portray oneself as the capable one to get the best male/female (hereby i mean the most attravtive) has lead to complete...distraction among the youths from their serious agendas.

So why dont we begin to realize the loss of our resources and rather be indulged in a good thoughtful and creative relation that brings the best out of both the partners.A relation just for a sake of it....which is sure to end invites nothing but waste of time and resources.