WHAT IS SEXY?

So what is sexy. Being sexy should literally mean you are attractive enough for the people of opposite sex(in most of the cases) to want of or at least think of having sex with you. However, things are ridiculous now-a-days with TV, music videos and all glamour. The thing sexy is completely a different thing. Today, being sexy is inextricably linked with what media portrays as "sexy".

When I went to watch a Hindi movie, this Laxmi Puja, one of the actresses kept explicitly stating herself as "sexy". To make that statement look relevant, the film started from a scene where she wore a bikini and dived into sparkling blue water. That is what most of us think sexy is. It occurred to me that irrespective of the actress, anyone(most of Bollywood actresses) wearing the same attire and carrying the same scene would have been tagged "sexy". So, I couldn't stop but think, were the wardrobe and the setup sexier than the heroine herself?

In some other cases, actors who are benevolent enough to strip off are considered sexy. That too surprises me. Neither of us are going to have actual sex with those highly rated, rarely reachable so called shining,hot celebrities. So, when they strip off, they must have lost their sexiness. I mean, if you are not going to have a sexual intercourse with a person, the next closest thing to be sexily close to him/her is watch them naked. So, to be "sexy" they must hide more than reveal, you know to keep that "sexy" curiosity going. Surprisingly, the media acts arcane and rates actors who reveal more as sexy. So, like a creed to be followed, actors continuously crave for movies that demands more of intimate scenes until either the viewers or their age get fed up of such nuisance. The rise and fall of such curiosity driven artificial "being sexy" culture is portrayed in the Vidya Balan's starer "Dirty Picture."

even the cartoons are to be blamed?

The media has presented another horrible prospect through its 24 hour "being sexy" bullshit. A "hero" in a movie  always has a muscular setup, and the heroine has a zero sized figure. Then, they are said to complement each other enough to make the sexy chemistry of the "true love saga" work, while all other shapes and sizes are ridiculously thrown away. Imagine, what would happen if all of the world were had men with six pack abs, and women with fair skin and a skinny figure? Maybe a overweight human would be told as sexy! Through continuous streaming of such propagandist agenda, people of personality other than that approved by the media, begin to impugn whether they are capable of nurturing a proper relationship. An over sized person, is always a subject of joke, and put as one who has to seek advise to date a girl/boy. And none protest to it.

Well, I realized these effects that media put into, when i recalled what sort of girls i got attracted to. In my early teens, i would have not picked a particular shape and size, while for now I certainly prefer the media fed "tall and slim" ones. Maybe, I was to grow this way or those actresses in movies made me think so: that may remain a mystery forever. But, it is certain that the media, is feeding wrong sense of being sexy into us. That is too detrimental as we shall spend more of our time, intellect and resources trying to be sexy in par with the actresses or the actors, who in fact have professionals to help their cause.

To sum it up, if you are a nurse, you are going to be sexy to a doctor, if you take care of your patient reliable and sincerely not necessarily by wearing what Jolie wore to the Oscars.

BURNING MEMORIES

Lot of us have memories, that trouble us. Memories that makes us feel dumb. Memories that makes us feel low. Memories that makes us feel betrayed. Memories that make us swallow our breath. Memory that twitches our chin Memories that makes us feel remorseful. Memories that make us feel derelict. And still, we can't figure a way to burn those thoughts.

A girl who dumped you for a drunk pervert. Parents who forced you to change your majors at University. Pet that died licking your dose of cocaine. The teachers who graded you low in a Viva because you were on flippers. Friends who left you in a middle of a fight. The child that left you in a old age home. These always remain in your mind. These always hunt you. They come in your dream to suffocate you. It leaves a musty grim patch in your brain. It makes your heart burn deep when you remember of it. But, still you can't kill those things.

So what?

Is your life ruined to hell? Just for petty shake of people who really don't care for you.

You have a way. Face it. And face it hard.

If you have written a poem for the girl as above. Don't burn it outright. Recite the poem every morning until you get the emotion and attachment out of it. Than its your literary creation.Not everybody turns into an Adele, but maybe you get to recite those poems in a college program or among your friends. If your pet dies licking cocaine, that you intended to sniff, maybe the best thing is to quit it. If the teachers graded you low, maybe you turn up to the University in flippers at Convocation day.That very day teacher are helpless and you feel powerful. If your child leaves you in an old age home, write a diary of every day there. Publish it. Or, try publishing it. It's worth trying. It's never too late. It's not a choice but compulsion when it's your time to act selfish to the ones that did it to you first. It's no revenge, it is an attempt to break the chain that surrounds your precious brain

The main thing that you need to remember is you need to burn memories, not physical things related to the memory. That is just not going to help. Instead look at them every once in a while, until you feel the attachment has faded away. Then nothing can shake you up at middle of the night. Nothing can make you feel low. And, finally you are the same man before the event. Once again you are ready to fight. Once again you are ready to dream.


Good Luck!